Tuesday, August 3, 2010
More protection found in breastmilk!
Friday, July 23, 2010
Article on vaccines
A brilliant article about vaccinations and the anti-vaccine movement.
Thursday, July 22, 2010
ACOG (finally) recommends VBACs
Yes, I know, little love for my readers recently. What can I say, I'm in full Nesting mode and tiring myself out too much to come up with coherent sentences. So here's something for you. I promise, you're not forgotten!
Monday, July 12, 2010
Pitocin Not FDA approved for elective inductions
I have a feeling most doctors don't want their patients to know this.
Monday, July 5, 2010
Midwives can practice in New York State again
Here is an article that has a snippet about it: http://www.nytimes.com/2010/07/02/nyregion/02albany.html?scp=1&sq=midwives%20in%20new%20york&st=cse
Thursday, July 1, 2010
Red Raspberry Leaf Tea
I asked my midwife at my last appointment (last Thursday) about drinking Red Raspberry Leaf tea as I had heard about it on a natural childbirth board. Basically I was told it couldn't hurt. So last Sunday I stopped off at Whole Foods and bought three boxes, two Traditional Medicine brand and one Yogi Tea brand. The Traditional Medicine is just 100% RRL, the Yogi Tea has a bunch of other stuff in it, including mint. Right now, I'm liking the plain tea the best. It tastes almost like black tea, but without the caffeine. I usually drink it straight, but it's not bad with some honey, either. The benefits are that it's high in a bunch of vitamins (see Wiki site), and since I need to keep my fluids up, this is another way to do that. So I'm drinking a liter of tea, and trying to get in a liter of water, plus whatever milk I drink. I'm doing better some days than others. Anyway, I'll go ahead and recommend the tea, as I can't find any negatives to drinking it.
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Back pain & Belly support
Monday, June 28, 2010
Yet another article advocating for midwifery care!
You would think hospitals/ACOG might pay attention (don't hold your breath!!).
A clear sign to switch from an ob's practice
This is a blog post about an ob practice in Ohio that has banned doulas and individual birth plans. The scariest part about it is not that the practice is requiring patients to sign off on their rules, but that many other practices feel the same way, but are not as upfront about it. I didn't get far enough along in my last pregnancy to discuss a birth plan with the ob practice I started with, but due to everything that lead to my leaving them, I have a feeling that they might have been just as unbending, just not as open about it.
While I would highly recommend any woman with a healthy pregnancy to seek out midwifery care instead of a doctor, I also understand that even for the most ardent natural birth supporters this isn't always possible (at the very least, insurance issues can make this a no-go right from the start). If you must be with an ob, I would then suggest speaking from very early on plans for a natural birth. There are some telling signs if the ob is less than supportive of this. Things such as their c-section rate, epidural rate, and how long they're willing to let you go past your due date (ACOG recommends induction at 43 weeks, not the 41 currently practiced the majority of the time). And remember, it is never too late to switch to a health care provider that you feel more comfortable with!
Thursday, June 24, 2010
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Braxton-Hicks
End note: so a little part of me is also freaked out that if the Braxton-Hicks are more uncomfortable this time, will I know for certain when the real deal starts? I had another dream of a super-fast labor, 23 minutes, but this one didn't go as well as my previous pregnancy dreams. Just that the midwives were really blasse about coming and then I had major breastfeeding issues.
Monday, June 21, 2010
A random blogpost about home births
Has a lovely home birth story and more about New York State's problems with midwives.
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Rebuttle to ACOG
Fantastic article showing the skewed point of view of physicians & ACOG and some bits on why homebirth is such a controversial issue in this country.
Friday, June 18, 2010
Stupid ACOG
The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists is doing it's darnedest to prevent women from using midwives in New York state. This infuriates me beyond belief. Anyway, have a read and get annoyed, too :).
The Farm
Ina May Gaskin is the Godmother of Natural, out of hospital births. I really, really should know more about her, but I'm always hearing raves about her books. The Farm is where she lives and practices. The above link is from someone who gave birth on the Farm recently and explains everything much better than I can. So please, read the blog post above, and I promise to do more research :)
Thursday, June 17, 2010
Make-up review: Tarte
Lip gloss: not too bad. The colors are really sheer (I received 15 glosses for Christmas, plus one more in my sample kit) and don't last a super long time, but they are gloss, after all. I do like the scent and texture; not too sticky and I'm not constantly pulling my hair out of my lips.
Eyeliner: EmphasEYES in black. I really like the liner. It's not super black, but it smudges so nicely and stays put all day. It's also a twist-up, so I don't have to worry about sharpening it and it always has a decent point.
Mascara: Lights, Camera, Lashes! also in black. I'm loving the mascara. I have long, full lashes to begin with, but they're stick straight and not super dark, so this does the job of emphasizing my lashes beautifully and also hasn't clumped, smudged or flaked. And it washes off easily!
Shadow primer: Lifted Natural Eye Primer. My skin is light enough that this works as an under-eye concealer for me, too. It's okay. Actually, it does a really good job of keeping my eyeshadow on (not that I have a huge problem with this), but it does so good of a job that it becomes more difficult to wash off. So if you need a primer, this is great, but otherwise I wouldn't bother.
Primer: Ugh, it smells funny. Not in a "it's gone bad" sort of way, just in a chemically way. Which is probably because it doesn't have any really bad stuff in it to mask smells, but I don't like the smell. However, it does do a good job and my skin feels really smooth.
Monday, June 14, 2010
Mini review
Sunday, June 13, 2010
Sick
Saturday, June 12, 2010
How the Health Bill Helps Pregnant Women
Bonus post :)
Swollen ankles
Friday, June 11, 2010
No legal home births in NYC now
Short-sighted gov't interference. Sigh.
I'm back!
Thursday, June 3, 2010
More news story
I haven't had a chance to read it yet, but good stuff about midwives :)
Vacation!!
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Relaxin
Today I also broke out my belly support. It's almost like a weight-lifting belt, but to support your stomach instead of your back. I carry ALL in my belly, so this was essential last time. My husband has been asking me about it for a few weeks now, but it's annoying to put on, so I was resisting. I figure it's time now. Overall, my body is still doing better at this point than it was with #1. Who says girls are more difficult??
Another article about births
Just throwing it out there. It's a Part 1, so hopefully I'll remember to look up the next part :)
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
The things we take for granted . . .
VBAC comic
This is absolutely hilarious, and unfortunately much too true.
Monday, May 31, 2010
The price of vanity
Oh, and I don't mind if you're laughing at me, I am too, even through the pain.
Long weekend?
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Not tonight
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Natural Birth conquers another site!
(and for those of you who haven't ever been on the Nest or the Bump, I say give it a try if you like having an internet support group for life in general)
Monday, May 24, 2010
Sleep conundrum
Sunday, May 23, 2010
I feel pretty!
Saturday, May 22, 2010
Drop-side cribs to be banned by end of year
We bought a convertible crib for #1 and I had never considered a drop-side one. Anything that has moving parts around an infant makes me nervous. I guess I was right in that worry. 32 infants have died since 2000 directly from the cribs, which can pose a strangulation or suffocation hazard. If you already have one, see if you can take it back (if it's older, it may have been recalled anyway). If you haven't bought a crib yet, then make sure to not get one with moving parts. And if you're short and are worried about being able to reach your baby, there are cribs that are lower to the ground :).
Friday, May 21, 2010
Can't bend over anymore
Another issue is that my babygirl is sitting really, really low. Most people think it's an old wives tale that boys are high and girls are low, but both of my babies have been obviously one or the other (with my son, older women used to come up to me at the store or wherever and tell me I was having a boy, regardless of whether I actually wanted to know this, which I didn't). It means that I have to move differently than I did with #1. I can't explain it, exactly, it's just very different. And a lot more pressure on my cervix. Which will happen anyway. But, at least for me, it has held true that every pregnancy is different.
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Scared after watching a birth(?)
The only birth movies that I've seen that Netflix has are The Business of Being Born which is more about the industry than about births and doesn't have the best birthing examples, and Orgasmic Birth which I just watched two weeks ago and is fantastic. Lots of beautiful, natural births. Home births, hospital births, supportive, loving births (and no crotch shots, so less disturbing for the uninitiated). There is also the medicated birth, but don't worry, it's not balanced at all. I'd love to hear of more if anyone has any suggestions in the comments.
And as a parting thought: WHO (World Health Organization) recommends a c-section rate of about 10%, which means that 90% of women can have healthy, unmedicated births without any problems. It's your body, and your body knows what it's doing.
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Embarassing stuff that WILL happen
Second, we've got hemorroids. Even if you avoid them during your pregnancy because you're great about getting enough fiber and being regular, there's a very good chance you will get them during labor because of all that fantastic pushing you will do. They're gross, mildly uncomfortable and can be itchy. So, add the hemorroids from my first pregnancy (which, by the way, can apparently be taken care of with an easy laser procedure that nobody told me about until I was pregnant again) with my all-to-frequent intenstinal distress and my poor bottom is a mess. One of my midwives suggested diaper balm. Not a bad idea, but my son's makes his bottom smell like lavender. A treat when changing his diapers, but not what I wanted for me. So I'm using belly balm. Oh, my, goodness, it is working so well to soothe! But in general, if it's good enough for baby's bottom, it should be good enough for yours as well.
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
My arms are too short!
Cankles update: as long as I stay off of my feet, they're not as bad. Too bad that doesn't happen frequently. I also suspect that I have low blood pressure like last time. Which means a suggestion of consuming more salt. Which doesn't help much with the swelling, but I'd rather have swollen ankles than faint!
Monday, May 17, 2010
Best countries to be a mother?
Few surprises here: Norway is the best, Afghanistan is the worst and the US is 28th out of the 160 countries surveyed. Actually, I was surprised that we were so high. The rankings were determined based on maternal health (how many mothers died due to childbirth, but not necessarily in childbirth) and maternity benefits, amongst others. We have a ridiculously high maternal death rate in this country, partially due to the lack of prenatal healthcare for poor women. We are below all of the countries of Western Europe. We also have some of the worst maternity benefits in the world. Heck, Cuba tends to do better than we do (although the article did not mention where we are ranked in relation to Cuba) due to their support of training enough doctors. What can you do about this? Be an educated health care consumer, take care of yourself, and use a midwife instead of an ob.
Sunday, May 16, 2010
My mother's day
Saturday, May 15, 2010
Projects done??
Friday, May 14, 2010
More on drug recalls
I'm horrified by the breakdown of safety measures at Johnson & Johnson.
Just, don't
See above for definition of bad parenting, poor choice and one way to messed up children. (article is about a YouTube video of seven year old girls doing a highly inappropriate dance routine)
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Sick baby
Right now he's just feverish (yay, nothing to give him for that, thanks McNeill Pharmaceuticals!!) with a slightly runny nose and super, super clingy. He did not want me to put him down from when he got up from his nap. Made making dinner for company tonight a snap. I'll check his temperature again in the morning and give him a cool (bubble) bath if it hasn't gone down yet. And my husband gets home tomorrow afternoon. He was THRILLED to hear about the cold.
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Latest on single-motherhood
An update on the on-line nutrition information that's available for chain restaurants: Today is my parents' 37th wedding anniversary. So what better way to celebrate than by going to a nasty chain? (my mother gets gift cards at work for good performance reviews, I really wish she'd pick something else) Anyway, I was at least able to go on-line for both menu options and to check the calories. Double-win. I wouldn't say I had the healthiest meal, but it was relatively compared to the rest of the options and it also meant I knew what to order for my toddler (and what to bring to supplement) before we went. Hurray for information!!
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Sixth Midwife Appointment
One thing that I did mention was my continuing exhaustion, which most likely is due to #1 rarely sleeping through the night. So next time they'll do bloodwork to check my iron and Vitamin D levels. I'm guessing though that it is purely related to poor sleep.
Monday, May 10, 2010
Single motherhood
Sunday, May 9, 2010
Happy Mother's Day!
Saturday, May 8, 2010
Baby getting hurt
Friday, May 7, 2010
The simple pleasure of simple food
Thursday, May 6, 2010
Going Organic, it's not just about you
Basically, the world we live in is a toxic cesspool. There is no way that an individual can eliminate all of the toxins in their environment, but anything that you can do to limit your exposure and creation of more is a good thing. So: buy organic (everything that you can afford, start with food, move on to clothes, if you can). But buy less. Clean with non-toxic cleaners (better yet, make your own, although I'll admit that I'm not there yet), and use less. Grow (some) of your own food; nothing says local like your back yard. Drive less. Do, less. I know, I'm repeating myself, but the idea that fetal cord blood has toxins in it freaks me out. We want to do everything that we can to protect our children and sometimes that also means doing less (stuff).
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
As if I needed more evidence . . .
TV is bad, bad, bad, bad, bad for babies, toddlers and children (heck, it's not all that great for adults, either)! There is no reason for them to be watching it. My son stays occupied just fine with his toys and books, I don't buy the "but I just need half an hour to get something done" excuse. Children do learn how to entertain themselves, plopping them in front of the tv only delays or prevents that skill from being learned. I feel as though I am the only holdout, other mommy friends that I have all say "well, I always said that I wasn't going to let my child watch tv, but it's just so necessary . . ." NO IT'S NOT!!! I get into this argument on a regular basis with my husband (and semi-regular with my mother). I know that once my babies are over at other people's homes on a regular basis visiting friends I will have less control, but I have complete control now and will not relent. Hmm, I feel a little bit better now.
Oh, and if you're not bothered by your child's brain rotting from watching the boob tube, at least have them watch non-commercial channels or videos, the commercials are just as harmful as the programming (can we say sugar cereal, McDonald's and every unimaginative toy that is out there???).
Monday, May 3, 2010
Oregon has lowest rates of childhood obesity
Some promising news in the fight against obesity, and some not so. There hasn't been a proven causation as to why Oregon has a rate of only 9% (vs national 16%, and this is for obesity, it doesn't include just the overweight) but they think that one factor may be that the state has a high rate of breastfeeding. Oregon also has the best employer laws: women who are breastfeeding are entitled to pumping breaks (this was before the Health Care bill was signed) and I want to say that they're paid breaks, too. Other factors may be that they require chain restaurants to post nutritional information (also in health bill), and it is more of an outdoorsy state (ie: more physical activity). Unfortunately, what might be the biggest contributing factor is that the state is 90% white, and minorities tend to have higher rates of obesity.
What I'll take from the survey is that there are several things that have passed in the national health care bill that Oregon was already doing, so hopefully that might help a bit on a national scale. (The other thing that might help is to make everyone across the country food snobs that want fresh food from local sources, which is pretty prevalent all through the Pacific Northwest.)
Sunday, May 2, 2010
Recalls!
Vitamin D recommendations increased for Pregnant Women
Oh, it's been a few days. Sorry about that, I'll do two tonight :)
CNN posted an article a couple of days ago about recent studies showing that pregnant women need more Vitamin D than previously thought. Right now the RDA is 400IU and the study had women take up to 4000IU, yeah, big difference. At my first midwife appointment she recommended that I add a 2000IU supplement. It's recommended that midwives or obs do a blood test to see if their patient is low in Vitamin D, but as my midwife put it, everyone is, it's a $150 test, and $150 will buy a LOT of supplements.
This isn't based on anything I've read, but I'm willing to bet that there are two main contributors to why most of the population is now D deficient (I'm thinking that this is also why the recommendations are suddenly changing): change in food production & change in outdoor time. People spend much, much less time outside now than they ever have before, and scheduled outdoor time frequently (and should ALWAYS) include sunscreen. I have a history of skin cancer in my family, and am pale enough to glow in the dark, I don't leave my bathroom in the morning without sunscreen on my face, at least. The other big reason is that we're getting less D from our food. Animals produce Vitamin D in the sunlight as well, and this can be found in products such as milk and eggs (I'm not sure about the content in actual meat). As most of our animals are now being raised indoors (heck, so chickens never even see the light of day), they're D production has also plummeted. Another excellent reason to only buy products from animals that have lived outdoors!
So, talk to your midwife, ob or dr. and ask about the new recommendations!
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Saying no
But it's more than just work. It's also outside commitments. I previously wrote about how important it is to volunteer and be active in your community, but it is just as important to set boundries, particularly in unpaid positions, so that you are not being run right over when you least feel like it. Delegate, when possible, if you're at a point where you cannot do as much. Like later points in pregnancy and right after birth. You can always pick up volunteering later. The most important thing is to listen to your body, and listen to your heart.
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Just because it says it's organic . . .
doesn't mean you still don't have to pay attention. The big thing is the baby formula. If you end up having to supplement breastfeeding then you should know what you're putting in your baby. I didn't check it out, giving him Similac Organic. Anyway, the way they manufacture DHA is in vats of mold. Yep, mold. I haven't done much research beyond that, but I don't really like the idea of mold being used to synthesize part of my baby's diet. Unfortunately, there aren't many options, but at least you should be an informed consumer.
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Fast food and children
A scary study done several years ago asked preschoolers what they're favorite restaurant was. Overwhelmingly, McDonald's came in first place, even amongst children who had never been there. This, of course, was accomplished by advertising; children who hadn't eaten at McDonald's were still watching enough television to be indoctrinated into American consumer culture. (okay, so a dig about tv as well as bad food) And what is the number one draw to McDonald's? Why the Happy Meal with a toy, of course. Which makes Santa Clara County in California just plain awesome in their attempts to battle childhood obesity by outlawing giving away toys along with unhealthy children's food. Children's meals must be under a certain number of calories, fat, sodium and sugar in order for a toy to be included. The law hasn't passed yet, but we can keep our fingers crossed. Although some (okay, many) will say that the government is being much too big brother-ish, I say good for the county. Children cannot make healthy decisions on their own, it must be done by parents. And too many parents are laying down on the job. I see it as a matter of child welfare to save them from their parents (and yes, I'm willing to go far enough down the zealot route to say feeding kids unhealthy foods all of the time is a form of child abuse, along with smoking around them, and not buckling them up properly in cars). As goes California, goes the nation (heck, I don't even live there anymore, but I'm proud of the various protections the state has enacted!).
Monday, April 26, 2010
Getting your Omega 3s
One of the essential nutrients to consume while pregnant is Omega 3 fatty acids, usually found in fish, but also in other sources. Pregnant women are encouraged (usually) to take a supplement to make sure that they get enough. But I have issues with the supplement. How the fish oil is obtained is environmentally suspicious, and apparently the method used to make it for baby formula is that it is produced in vats of mold. Yuck. So I asked about other sources. Of course, eating too much fish (my problem) can lead to other issues (mercury poisoning anyone?), so my midwife suggested flaxseed oil. I'll admit, I have yet to open up my bottle (which is really, really bad of me!) because I'm still traumatized by the cod liver oil my parents made me ingest as a child (they didn't catch on to the capsules for a long time). But I must do this! Above is a link to a New York Times article in tomorrow's Health section about the differences between obtaining the fatty acids from flax vs fish. Basically, you need more oil from flax for your body to convert it properly. But especially if you're a vegetarian, this is a great option to have.
Sunday, April 25, 2010
Keeping track of food
Saturday, April 24, 2010
Burping
Friday, April 23, 2010
Who will take care of baby?
Why am I bringing this up? Because once you have that sweet baby in your arms, you're not going to know how you feel about then having to drop him or her off at daycare six, eight, twelve weeks later. I know a lot of women who LOVE their jobs. They've worked hard to get to where they are and don't want to give that up. They also realize that it's an essential part of themselves and to have to not work would be to deny part of themselves. And then they have a baby. This certainly doesn't happen to everyone. But it does happen. Experience starts to change your mind. This doesn't make you a bad person, or a weak woman for deciding that you'd rather stay home, only human because you couldn't imagine something until you were there. I'm only writing this to keep at the very back of your mind, just in case. And, of course, because even though I didn't love-love my job, I certainly expected to go back to it and be able to contribute financially to the family. But I couldn't. It hurt too much to drop my baby off each morning. We also didn't think there was any way, financially, for me to stay home. But we're making it work. It's not easy, particularly in this post-real estate bust, but a lot more people can do it if they really try. I just want to make sure that you soon-to-be mommies know that there are a lot of options out there. And that there are others who feel the same way.*
*There are plenty who also can't wait to go back to work, and that's fine, too! Newborns are not easy in any way shape or form, so I want to make sure that nobody thinks I'm dissing them!
Thursday, April 22, 2010
More on school lunches
Silly me, who doesn't watch television, I forgot that everyone else seems to be tuned into the school lunch issue. Here's an article about Jaime Oliver's show from yesterday's Washington Post's food section (newspapers, I obviously read, if not always right away). I adore Oliver, and not just because he cooks and is cute. He has done a ton of work in Britain to try and fix school lunches there, as well as other charitable causes (like teaching at-risk youths [and I believe recent inmates] for food-industry jobs, etc.). I'm always one to jump late on a celebrity bandwagon. I need them to prove to me that they're worthwhile first (heck, I didn't like Madonna until I read that she didn't let her children watch television). I think Oliver is worthwhile, and it helps that I believe in his causes: cooking for health & family. So if he can get you to care, that's another reason I'll like him.
BTW, PBS showed Food, Inc. last night and now has it on their website. So if you haven't seen it yet, now's your chance to do so for free!
Wednesday, April 21, 2010
Never to early to be horrified by school lunches
Taking a look several years into the future: do you know what your kids will be eating in their school lunch? The above article is about the armed services complaining that school lunches are making young adults to fat to join the military. Regardless of whether or not you see your child taking that route, it's pretty hard not to be concerned. Ironically, after World War II the military was the one who got the federal government to institute nutritional standards for school foods after complaining that they were causing malnourishment in potential recruits.
But looking at a time in the closer future: I already hear horror stories of parents whose children imbibe tons of sweets and other junk food at daycare. It is really, really, really hard to counter that environment when children are being immersed in it from such an early age. One of the reasons we chose the daycare we did (even if #1 was only there for nine weeks) was because I had more control over what he was going to eat. What to do? Model what good nutrition is for your children. This is the #1 thing that you can do. Do NOT eat poorly in front of them and then expect them to gobble down the steamed broccoli. Bonus: you'll be more healthy, too. Also, don't let them watch television. Forgetting about the lack of exercise and brain rot sitting in front of the boob tube causes, it's also the constant bombardment of commercials for BAD food that causes problems. If little Timmy doesn't see 5000 McDonald's commercials a week, he's much less likely to bet you to take him there. I could go on, but I'm tired, and I think you've got the point. Eat healthy and remember, you are the parent, so say no to bad food!
Monday, April 19, 2010
Cankles
Eat small meals, frequently (or why I didn't post last night)
Saturday, April 17, 2010
Web resource
Not being able to come up with anything on my own to write about, I instead am relying on Google for a little help. Midwifery Today is a quarterly magazine for midwives, but the website has a ton of information on it, and at least parts of articles from the magazine. I read a bunch and really liked what is being written about, so I encourage you to take a look. The search function (for midwives, doulas, birth centers, etc.) seems rather limited, but at least it's a start. So it's worth a few clicks, at least.
Friday, April 16, 2010
Fifth Midwife appt
Thursday, April 15, 2010
One of those weeks
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Fight for Midwifery law in NY State
An article forwarded to me by a friend. Right now, New York requires midwives to practice with an OB instead of independently. The bill, Midwifery Modernization Act, would allow midwives to practice independently, as they do in many other states, including mine. The American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists opposes the bill. So I feel the need to editorialize. Nearly everything that I've read about the ACOG points to them continuously trying to obstruct the practice of midwives. Despite the fact that midwifery care tends to have better results than OB care in non-high risk pregnancies. While there is a reason to go to an ob if you're pregnant (such as, you are at high risk), for most women a midwife would be a healthier, and cheaper option. Unfortunately, due to the obstruction of the ACOG, there aren't that many places in this country that have a full range of options. Many areas are completely deviod of midwives, and most other places require that they only deliver in hospitals, or birth centers attached to hospitals. This can artificially inflate the price of delivery. Anyway, keep an eye on this and any developments in your own communities and states to help or hinder midwifery practices. And remember, our lawmakers need to know that safe, affordable midwifery care is important to us!
Sunday, April 11, 2010
Sensitive noses
Friday, April 9, 2010
Big Ultrasound
And, it's a GIRL!!! And our due date is officially 8/19/10. They changed it after the last ultrasound, but my midwives didn't accept the change. It shouldn't make a difference as long as BabyGirl is around on time. Anyway, it was fun spending an hour looking at the baby and seeing her, although the only thing I really cared about was the gender (since prior ultrasound showed everything as it should be). As much as I love my boy, I'm a girly girl (heck, look at my avatar) and would very much like a daughter to share it with. A daughter who agrees that pink is the best color ever and understands why my purse matches my stand mixer. But don't worry, she should also be able to kick a** if provoked. I may be the picture of femininity, but don't mess with me, either. This also brings up a whole host of other issues dealing with societal treatment of women that I will now have to navagate to raise a confident, secure lady. Sigh, nobody said it would be easy.
Thursday, April 8, 2010
Breastfeeding support at work
ERS.
3 Section 7 of the Fair Labor Standards Act of 1938
4 (29 U.S.C. 207) is amended by adding at the end the fol5
lowing:
6 ‘‘(r)(1) An employer shall provide—
7 ‘‘(A) a reasonable break time for an employee to
8 express breast milk for her nursing child for 1 year
9 after the child’s birth each time such employee has
10 need to express the milk; and
11 ‘‘(B) a place, other than a bathroom, that is
12 shielded from view and free from intrusion from co13
workers and the public, which may be used by an em14
ployee to express breast milk.
15 ‘‘(2) An employer shall not be required to compensate
16 an employee receiving reasonable break time under para17
graph (1) for any work time spent for such purpose.
18 ‘‘(3) An employer that employs less than 50 employees
19 shall not be subject to the requirements of this subsection,
20 if such requirements would impose an undue hardship by
21 causing the employer significant difficulty or expense when
22 considered in relation to the size, financial resources, na23
ture, or structure of the employer’s business.
24 ‘‘(4) Nothing in this subsection shall preempt a State
25 law that provides greater protections to employees than the
26 protections provided for under this subsection.’’.
Yes, I went through the healthcare omnibus to find this for you, my loyal readers. If you work for a company employing at least 50 people, you are now given the right to pump at work in a private area, not a bathroom, as is necessary to you, for a year after giving birth. Now they just to extend that to all employers. And add some paid maternity leave. If I ever run for public office I am so making this part of my platform!
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
Another bad night
I started looking through the health care omnibus, yes, all 2000+ pages for stuff that will affect you positively. It's taking a while to find anything relevant, but I will prevail and hopefully have something more interesting tomorrow other than another complaint about teething. At least my husband doesn't have any big meetings tomorrow, so I can sleep in my own bed.
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
Breast health
Secondly, quit using soap on your breasts. Or lotion, or powder or anything except for nipple cream, if necessary. How would you like it if your food tasted like Chanel #5? Right now your nipples and the vicinity are producing oils (you may have broken out, or at least noticed the increase) that serve to clean and lubricate the area. Let your body take care of itself and just use water in the last month or so of pregnancy and after birth.
Speaking of wet, once you start breastfeeding, allow your breasts to air dry as much as possible. You can get yeast infections on your nipples (and in Baby's mouth) which are really hard to clear up. Proper drying can help prevent this. My midwives recommend going around topless as much as possible. I kept a burp cloth around for leakage, but tried to keep them bare (just ask the neighbors!). Obviously, this only works around the home, or at the beaches in Europe, but certainly in the evenings you can at least go braless. Also make sure to change the bra pads frequently. I bought reusable cotton ones, which worked great and I could just wash out in the sink in the evening (I bought a dozen pairs, so eventually they just went in the wash whenever I did a load). At night I slept on my back or side with a burp cloth over my breasts, which worked really well and was so much more comfortable than sleeping in a nursing bra. And I leaked a lot, until about a month after I stopped breastfeeding.
Breastfeeding books, of course, also have a ton of information, but here's the basics to start thinking about.
Monday, April 5, 2010
Breastfeeding article
Sunday, April 4, 2010
Overwhelmed and underrested
Saturday, April 3, 2010
Easter Egg Hunt
Friday, April 2, 2010
Eating Fish
Our usual diet consists of a protein (chicken, turkey or fish) with some type of grain: rice, tortilla, pasta. So Passover becomes a bit of a challenge since I can't really do a stir-fry or pasta dish. I end up eating a ton of fish (salmon, gefilte fish, canned tuna, gefilte fish, etc.). After realizing that I'm eating fish up to twice a day, I thought maybe I should remind myself of the forbidden ones due to mercury. Gefilte fish doesn't seem to be on there (what, it's not a separate species? okay, the ingredients are on the low list). I am eating too much canned tuna (I gave up the real stuff, particularly because I prefer it still flopping on the plate) due to insane cravings for anything with mayonnaise (which I don't usually like); mainly tuna fish sandwiches, although I'm looking forward to the post-egg-hunt devilled eggs on Sunday a little too much.
The list above is a good reminder to branch out, a lot. The bigger problem is that my husband likes salmon, and that's pretty much it. I'll eat anything from the sea (except sea urchins, they're pretty gross both cooked and raw), so I need to get a little more creative, which is exactly what any pregnant woman wants to hear: more work! Point is: the more variety in your diet, the better both for getting maximum nutrients and for keeping the bad stuff low. Oh, and make sure to compare the mercury list with the safe fish list (so stay away from things like farmed or Atlantic salmon!). So here's a freebie for you: http://www.montereybayaquarium.org/cr/cr_seafoodwatch/sfw_recommendations.aspx
Thursday, April 1, 2010
Book recommendations!
Pregnancy books: I just loved Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy. It was a fun, easy read that really covered the down and dirty stuff with a sense of humor. One criticism that I've read about it is that the author is too open to C-sections and pain meds. That's her choice, but I didn't feel like it took anything away from the book. I like that she is completely non-judgemental, even I don't agree with some of her choices. I've heard scary things about the What to Expect books so I skipped them. I really don't want to read about infinitesimal things that can go horribly wrong unless I'm actually at risk. I'm usually in favor of over-education, but when it comes to some stuff, knowing too much will just keep you up at night. I have enough that already does that. I also checked out a book on home births from the library that I enjoyed, but it was British and not terribly applicable. Do go to the library, you don't need to buy a bunch of pregnancy books and sometimes they also have them in the charity sales (my GGTP was $.25).
Labor books: Bradley method. These were the only ones I read (and honestly, I didn't read them all the way through). Natural Birth the Bradley Way by Susan McCutcheon-Rosegg, Erick Ingraham, and Robert A. Bradley and Husband-Coached Childbirth by Robert A. Bradley, Marjie Hathaway, Jay Hathaway, and James Hathaway plus the workbook that comes with the course (actually, the books do, too, so if you're going to sign up for the class, you don't need to buy them separately). The second one should be read by your partner, too.
Postpartum: The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding by La Leche League International. Please read this before giving birth. The only thing I didn't like about the book is that it makes everything seem so easy when it isn't necessarily. There is NOTHING wrong with you if you have problems with breastfeeding! But there are tons of great tips and advice and overall it's a great resource to have.
Baby Books: the two books I liked the best are The Baby Whisperer Solves all of Your Problems by Tracy Hogg and Melinda Blau and The Baby Book by Dr. William Sears. The Baby Whisperer is fantastic in figuring out routines (like don't let your baby sleep for more than two hours at a time during the day, this revolutionized our lives) and how much food, sleep, etc. is needed at what age. She also doesn't like "Crying it Out" for getting a baby to sleep (which I am against) so more points for her. Dr. Sears is THE baby expert and also into attachment parenting, so I strongly identify with him and his ideas. There is also just a lot of basic information. The book is 600+ pages, so I still haven't gotten anywhere close to through with it, but it was also extremely helpful in figuring out why Baby is crying type questions.
My husband read Happiest Baby on the Block and Happiest Toddler on the Block by Harvey Karp which were also lifesavers in getting Baby to sleep when he was teeny tiny. I haven't read them yet, but they're next on my list. The toddler one is working well for my husband communicating with our Terrible Toddler, which is why I need to read it soon!
I've read most of the Baby 411 and Toddler 411 books by Denise Fields and Ari Brown, M.D. but I'm not a huge fan. They're great for straight information on a lot of stuff, but I don't agree with the child-rearing advice. So I suppose useful for when you don't want to slog through the encyclopedia that is Dr. Brown. She also wrote the Baby Bargains book which is mainly useful if you're tempted to buy a ton of baby stuff. I wasn't so it was more useful in explaining to Daddy why the toys he loved as a baby (bouncy seat, walker) are actually death traps that our children won't have.
For partner: Besides the Happiest books above, my husband really likes the series by Armin A. Brott and Jennifer Ash, The Expectant Father, the New Father, and Fathering your Toddler.
There are hundreds of books out there to peruse. These are merely the ones that I've found or have been recommended to me that I thought were helpful, I hope that they're helpful to you, too.
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Before the baby comes
This time around, we have until the end of June to get everything done so I have two months to relax. This means that we've been landscaping like crazy (it's never really done, and we have a tiny backyard, too!). The next project is built-in bookcases for our living room. Then we need to furnish #1's room with new furniture so we can move his baby stuff into the new nursery (at least it's already painted!). There will always be last minute stuff to take care of, but I am bound and determined to enjoy the most miserable part of THIS pregnancy!
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Another reminder to eat local and know your food sources
As if we didn't have enough to worry about with the food supply, apparently manufacturers and suppliers sometimes lie about the content of the food such as type of fish or diluting honey or olive oil. Not quite as bad as putting melamine in baby formula, but who wants to pay premium prices for adulterated wine? Of course this goes back to knowing where your food comes from, at least as much as possible. You have a lot more control over what you eat when you know the farmer who grew your strawberries instead of going to the store and buying a bag of frozen fruit. There is only so much you can source locally, but the nation's reliance on packaged convenience foods doesn't help the problem.
Monday, March 29, 2010
Happy Passover
Sunday, March 28, 2010
Water
Saturday, March 27, 2010
Another reminder to take care of YOU
Friday, March 26, 2010
Upper body strength
PS-If you posted a comment yesterday, I think I accidentally erased it. I'm not seeing them posted, so could you check for them? Thanks!
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Squats*
One of the best positions to give birth in is squatting. It allows the pelvis to open up about 10% more than in any other position and also gets full participation from gravity. However, since the pushing phase can last a few hours, don't expect to just squat down when you're ready to deliver. You need to practice starting yesterday. No, no, no, don't get discouraged, starting today :). If you already have a child, chances are you squat down quite a bit to get down to his or her level on a daily basis. Yes, this is one area where I have drastically improved since last time around!
You can start small, you just want to be able to increase your stamina by the time your due date rolls around. (I could go look up the information in my Bradley book for their guidelines, but it's upstairs and I'm lazy, instead, go sign up for a Bradley class)
If you are planning on giving birth in a hospital, make sure to ask if they have squat bars. These are medieval-looking contraptions that allow for a bar to be secured at the base of the labor bed so you can squat down there. (Don't get me started on why they just won't let you squat on the floor instead of balancing precariously on the edge of a narrow bed) A lot of hospitals do have them now. Of course, you could always just stay off the bed during the long stretches of time when nobody is bothering to check on you anyway. Birth centers and home births won't have any problems with this.
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
Kegels*
Don't be like me: DO YOUR KEGELS!!!
*just in case you don't know, Kegels are the exercise that flexes your pelvic floor muscles: it's the action used to stop the flow of urine when you're going to the bathroom.
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
More on C-sections
Yet another study has come out sounding the alarm of the ridiculously high rate of C-sections in this country. Unfortunately, the article barely talks about ways to prevent this (such as not having an induction), although it mentions some of the contributing factors (fear of malpractice suits being the big one).
A really important way to help prevent an unnecessary C-section is to check out the rates of your ob and hospital (if that's the route you're going, the best way, of course, if you are low-risk, is to have a midwife). If either or both of them have higher rates (30%+) then you need to discuss this, in depth, with your ob. Which, if you have a good practice, you should be doing anyway. Other ways are to try and avoid an induction and having a natural childbirth. Every time there is an intervention, it can lead to more. And stay at home as long as possible, the less time that you're in the hospital, the less time there is for interventions! (just don't wait until you feel the urge to push :) )
Monday, March 22, 2010
Eat Real Food
While it seems as though HFCS is in nearly everything, if you eliminate a lot of the processed foods that Americans seem to love so much, it isn't that hard to do. I have managed to virtually eliminate it (except for the nasty sports drinks I still have to consume) in the last couple of years. Also, enough cities now have laws that require chain restaurants to post nutritional information that you can find a lot of it on-line. Another way to educate yourself about what you're eating (basically, stay away from chains!). Restaurants that have rotating menus and advertise fresh ingredients are better bets, usually. A hilarious rule of thumb is that if your great-grandmother (whom we'll assume was a globe-trotting, adventurous eater) wouldn't recognize it, don't eat it. :)
Toxins in beauty products? Check out this blog.
I was forwarded this blog last week and finally had a chance to read the first page. Not bad.
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Heath Care Reform
Friday, March 19, 2010
I'm tired! (Yeah, it's a Friday)
Thursday, March 18, 2010
Birth Story for first baby
First things first: #1 was born at 3:21am on 9/8/08 weighing in at 7 lbs, 12 oz and 20 inches long.
Secondly, I just want to say how proud I am of my husband. When we first started talking about getting pg, he was all about a medicated, hospital birth and couldn’t imagine anything else. With all that we went through, he did a full 180 and was 100% behind a natural childbirth in a birth center. And after the birth, he is 110% behind a home birth next time. I’m just so lucky to have a man who can grow and change and not get stuck in his own ideas without considering other options.
Okay, here are the details, up close and personal. I don’t think there’s anything that will scare the potential breeders. It really all started early Sunday morning. I woke up for my one am potty break and saw there was some spotting (bloody show), evidence that my cervix was dilating. Since I’m with a midwife practice, they don’t do any internal checks since you can start effacing or dilating weeks before giving birth and that can just give a false sense of urgency. I was a bit excited, but also knew that this just meant something was happening, not that something was happening soon. I woke up at six am to more bloody show, but no cramping or contractions, so I suppressed my excitement (a bit) and went on with my day (garage sale! Yeah, we really live it up here).
The day was busy and around six I was catching up with a friend in DC on the phone. After about an hour of talking to her, I realized I’d been having contractions the entire time. Not necessarily a bit deal, since I’d been having Braxton-Hicks for about two months. I decided to let her go and start timing with the stop watch we’d finally bought three days before. My husband came inside from mowing the lawn a little bit later to my announcement that I was having light, painless contractions 8-14 minutes apart. We decided to have dinner and see if they would stop. We ate, the contractions continued, but didn’t speed up or get any more intense. We discussed my husband working from home the next day, but decided to see how I would feel the next morning. I took a warm shower and the contractions finally did stop. I thought I was going to be fine, and would be able to go into work the next day and get a few things done.
When I woke up for my first potty break, I realized that I’d had a few contractions, but I thought it was the middle of the night, so I could probably just go back to sleep. Then I looked at the clock. I had been in bed for less than an hour and had had several mild contractions. This was not false labor. I wanted to let my husband get as much sleep as possible, so I just lay there for a while, the contractions starting to get more intense and some back pain with them. Baby was also moving non-stop in between contractions, so there was no chance of me sleeping between them. I made an effort to relax during and between, rubbing the small of my back when it was hurting. It wasn’t much longer when I needed to start vocalizing to help me get through the contractions. They hurt, but they weren’t so bad that I couldn’t cope. But the moaning finally woke my husband up. At first he thought I was just moaning in my sleep, but soon realized I was wide awake. As soon as he was up, I told him to go get the Bradley book so I could see where I was. He couldn’t find that, or the midwife manual, so I got up to go look in the nursery. I made it in there just in time to drop to all fours for the next contraction. As soon as it was over, I felt nauseated and rapidly went to the bathroom to get sick. I crawled into the tub and had my husband call the midwife. Getting into the tub was fantastic. I turned on the water for each contraction and just had it run over me. Sitting there wasn’t terribly comfortable, but the running water made up for it. My cat also sat on the edge of the tub with me, worried about what was going on. Considering what a pain she normally is, it was so touching to see her worried about me.
It was around 1am when we got in touch with the midwife. She listened to me have a contraction, determining that I was in active labor (you think?) and told us she’d meet us at the birth center at 2am. I couldn’t imagine waiting that long! My husband ran around to get everything into the car. Then I hit transition. I let out a scream for that first one, not realizing that it was transition. But the first one was by far the worst, and staying in the tub calmed me down. When I was time to leave, I didn’t want to. I was worried that by changing position and getting out of the tub that I’d be in more pain. What I was dealing with was still within the realm of coping, but I wasn’t sure how much more I could take. Then I started to feel a small urge to push. My husband: “We are going RIGHT NOW!”
I finished the contraction, threw on underwear and a robe, and he got me down to the car in record time. Fortunately, the contractions slowed down and were much easier in the car. My husband would only go 5 miles over the speed limit, mentally getting ready to have to explain to a cop if we got pulled over. Fortunately, someone else was pulled over ahead of us and we made it to the Birth Center in about 15 minutes. I walked in the door, meeting my midwife and her two assistants with “I’m ready, now!” They thought this was amusing, until they checked me. The women got me into the room, soft music playing and candles lit, while My husband got our bags out of the car. I lay down in the bed and felt much better. I was so exhausted, all I wanted to do was rest. They had the tub ready for me since I had originally planned for a water birth, but laying on my side was so comfortable. Then they checked me, and could see the baby’s head. I was ready to push, so they told me to go ahead and listen to my body. My husband kneeled by the bed and I held (squeezed) his fingers. I had one assistant at my head, putting cool compresses on my forehead and rubbing my back and arms. I had one assistant putting warm compresses on my perineum and holding my leg up with each push. The midwife oversaw everything and made sure that I had a drink of water during each break. I pushed with each contraction and rested in between. The rest made such a difference in my stamina. I was refreshed and (somewhat) ready to go each time. The pushing was really intense, but it wasn’t nearly as painful as I thought it would be. The first couple I was vocalizing really loudly and the midwife told me to take that energy and use it to push instead, keeping the vocalizations lower in my chest. This made pushing so much more effective. About fifteen minutes before birth, my water finally broke. The feeling was actually quite nice, with the rush of liquid feeling comforting. I had completely forgotten about it so I was surprised when it happened. Before I knew it, I could feel Baby’s head. I wanted him out! He started to crown with one push and I felt him slide back inside. I said, “No, I want you out now!” and the midwife told me it was okay, give myself some time to stretch. Well, I was ready to push a few more times, but I could feel his head coming out with the next push, so I just kept going and my husband was right there when I pushed him out entirely at once. It was so fast, there wasn’t even time for a picture. My husband put him on my belly and my son and I looked at each other for the first time. As soon as I could talk, all I could say was “That was it? I could totally do this a few more times!”
Because he came so fast, and his hand was up near his head, I did have a second degree tear that required stitches, but I didn’t (and never did) feel that. I also had a nasty hematoma (like a blood blister). And I lost a lot of blood, making me really light-headed any time I stood up for the first day. But I am so happy with how the birth turned out. A little extra healing time is so worth how easy labor was. I was fully prepared for a multi-day marathon and instead ran the marathon in a sprint. I took Bradley Method classes beforehand, and while I forgot half of it during labor, I feel as though they had me fully prepared on what to expect at each stage. What I took away from them that helped the most was trying to relax as much as possible during labor. I feel like it made a world of difference in my stamina and the level of pain. And also for the general philosophy of this is what our body is made to do, so we can handle it. While I know that natural childbirth isn’t for everyone, I really do encourage everyone to at least explore if it is an option.